The Checklist

Every girl's gotta have a list of what she does and doesn't want. How else will you know if you've struck gold or oil? Well, here's a convenient, left-brained way to analyze your personal collection of Not-so-Charming Princes... and your current significant other, if you feel he is worthy of your harshest judgement. I like to keep a running list of past significant others, simply because there sometimes is merit in comparison. You can't know good 'til you've known bad!... and vice versa.

Here's the part where ambiguity and tolerance come in. Based on my scorecard, it looks like the men I have dated have regressed in maturity, but advanced in most other categories. Does that mean you can have one or the other, but not both? So... I could have a faithful, family oriented man and a repressed stay-at-home life, or I could feel loved, balanced, and have all the freedom I wanted...  while my man was out smashing mailboxes. Whaddaya think?! Winner, winner, chicken dinner?

Yeah, don't think so. But at least I can look back and say, 'Hey. Paul wasn't so bad. He couldn't hold a job, but at least he never cheated on me.' Or, 'Ryan wasn't so bad either. He was really supportive of my career goals... but only because he could/would not support a family and refused to leave his studio apartment.'

*Sigh*

You can't have it all, but I know for damn sure that it gets better than this!